Hi there!
Have you ever wondered why people hit the Unfollow button? I have and I want to share with you what I noticed over the years.
People unfollow you if you write the same thing over and over again!
Your favorite meal becomes less favorite if you eat it daily. The same thing applies in this blogging world. If you post new content which actually is the same one over and over again, people will become indifferent or even annoyed and that’s when they click Unfollow.
It is perfectly fine to have bits and pieces that repeat themselves in the posts, but the main idea needs to be different!
People unfollow you if you ignore them
You want followers, right? And views and likes and comments. Well, what do you do when they come? If you ask for comments, but you don’t reply back or at least give a like to those comments, people will tend to feel ignored and they wonder why bother commenting on your posts.
You need to cherish every single person interacting with your blog, especially the people that actually give you their two cents regarding what you posted.
People unfollow you if you post too often
Yes, I am guilty of this! And I lost followers because of this!
I started posting again 4 – 5 times per day. But I do it to keep myself distracted. That’s also the reason why I read a lot of other bloggers. It’s my only way to deal with the voice in my head that constantly tells me to go have a drink.
I hope you’ll find something valuable in my posts. Quotes can be read in a matter of seconds, but they can spark ideas that last for years.
People unfollow you if you seem to be fake
Keep it real! Don’t try to seem the person that you are not. Your life is not perfect, regardless who you are. We all have problems. Share them. And share your solution for them, if you have one. Maybe you’ll help others with similar problems or they will help you.
People unfollow you if they don’t like your content
And that’s fine! You don’t have to be liked by everybody. As long as you are being real, you will attract the likeminded people. In the process, you might catch the attention of the people with different mindsets. They might even give you some mean comments. And that’s fine! In the end, they will walk away because they just have a different view of life.
Anyways, this is what I learned so far!
How about you? Why do you think people hit the Unfollow button?
Looking forward to read your comments!
Much love,
Elena
PS: If you enjoy my content, I will think of you while drinking my coffee. – BuyMeACoffee
My son, this blog and coffee is what keeps me alive and going while fighting alcoholism!
Short Wisdom 
Keep it up
I’ll try to! Thank you!
Your blog on why people unfollow interesting . I’d add to that blogs that are selling something , usually help with publishing on line , or inspirational stuff that’s not very bright ( see how horrible I am )
Plus I find it hard to actually get to comment on a blog , so don’t take the time .
Following you now ! Best wishes Suzette
Totally agree. Especially the first point. Thus I would take effort to find new subjects and learn. Even if the search rate is low.
And thanks for your tips! 👍
Stay safe.
Thank you very much! Stay safe you too! ❤
Thanks for this precious advice. And for your other posts. I wish you all the best in your plans and dreams. Dariusz Łukasik
Thank you very much, Dariusz! ❤
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Interesting. Especially like the last point. Some people may or may not like your content…which is not one size fits all. I’m not sure what makes people unfollowing so important. I make my blogs etc about real life stuff mostly and kind of like a bit of upbeat…though I do give the downside to some stuff. My photography is what I share on Twitter…I always found it hard to be negative about nature…but I guess some will just look at the picture, some will read the comment and some will follow or unfollow as suits. I think the most damaging thing about social media is that people seem to focus on whether people follow them or not or unfollow them. If you do what fits for you, you’ll get the followers that like what you do. It’s kind of a hard balancing act for stuff. Hope this is of interest or use.
Awesome comment! Thank you! ❤
I love an honest and open conversation! We’re on the right track 🙂
Very true. Thank you😊
i post often cos i got tossed off twitter
and i like glitter
glam and shame
it s not a game
just prose
at them to them ma nose!
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i am so good. just that good. who knew?
the shameless attempt to induce you to follow.
Shameless?
of course.
You have my follow 😀
ty and you mine as well.
Thank you for sharing your insights! You do provide some very good observations and realization about readers and what they like and don’t like.
I appreciate you taking the time to write what you do! You appear to write from the heart with a good message put before your readers.
When I write the devotionals that I do, I don’t know who will read them. Always figure if just one person reads them and it makes a difference in their life, that’s all that matters. We never know who will read what we write. However, as we write with the great commission in our heart, hopefully it will fall on ears and eyes that needed to learn from what we wrote.
Thank you for all that you do! Continue to be a blessing to many!
Chaplain James
Thank you very much, James, for your kind words! We never know the impact our work has on people. We can do our best and hope for the best!
It’s a very good post! And I post once daily, but due to my routines and autism, I do repeat things. And when I am trying to learn something, I always mention the past again to show where I came from. I understand this may sound boring to some.
But I write for myself mostly, it’s my outlet to be myself in this world. 😊 I’m honored if people follow, even more so if they’re active on my posts. I like their replies, I try to answer all and I try to read their posts if they share any.
It’s not about the numbers for me, it’s being real and having some fun.
I don’t mind people posting more, if their posts are interesting. Some reblog many posts by others every day and then I’d rather follow the original writers… 😊
Have a fabulous day 🌸
Hi Cynni! As long as the old content is used for giving some context for the new content, everything is good. The problem is where people actually try to make the same point over and over again. Thank you very much for being here! ❤
Hello Elena, thanks for your kind reply! That’s what I always aim to do, move forward. Both in life as with my blog posts. Mention where I come from and then add the new bits that I have been working on. Have a lovely day 🌸.
Thanks for sharing the post, quite informative and helpful.
And never quit your fight against alcoholism. Your kid and your own self is a great reason for you to keep this fight on. All the best, Elena & stay safe.
Thank you very much for your support! All the best to you, too!
That’s very helpful Elena. Thanks! And don’t let those voices in your head ever bother you
I try to! Thank you very much! ❤
I’m always here 🤗
Elena, first of all, I love your post. Second of all, I love your name – I’m planning to legally change my name from Helen to Elena in September, for my birthday. It’s been on my mind for years but I’ve always been on the fence about it. For me a change of name is a fresh start, and I always used ‘Elena’ as an alias, right up until it became my known identity more than ‘Helen’ did!
Anyway, your point about posting too often definitely resonates with me. I took part in WordPress’s Bloganuary challenge and I expected it to bring me likes and followers, but instead? It actually cost me them! Three followers to be exact! That’s the very last thing I wanted to happen!
I once fell once fell out with a blogger over a very silly thing – we couldn’t agree over the idea of a Disability Pride. Whilst we are both disabled bloggers, she wanted to celebrate disabled people and I didn’t. To me and until my blog then my disabilities are a part of me, they’re not my identity. Because I disagreed with her ideas, she unfollowed me. Hey ho, it happens.
I think the biggest cause of me unfollowing someone is if they either come across as fake, or if they’re just constantly really depressing. I want to read energy, but I want to read real optimism, pragmatism, not the artificial super sweet stuff that’s just acting like life is all rosy. I also want to read something that keeps me engaged and piques my interest, that I can come to understand and doesn’t require lots of deep thinking or understanding of the big words to make sense. As a leader myself I understand that usually, using simpler language is more likely to succeed. It’s not about making people feel dumb, it’s about not making people feel dumb. I think that makes sense?
A great and informative read, thank you for sharing 😊
Thank you very much for reading, Elena! And congratulations for changing your name! I’m sure it will suite you well!
People are people… they mostly react based on emotions. Mostly, the way they react have little to do with other people’s behavior and content. They just have other things on their mind and our content can act like a trigger.
Thank you Elena! I hope so too. I still need to get the forms but I’m very excited for it.
I think you’re right there, unfortunately. What a shame it is though to be so close-minded sometimes? Just occasionally, that interesting conversation can be the very thing that brightens our day.
I plead guilty of posting too much. In the past I didn’t cared about commenting but now I spent as much time reading and answering them than I actually write. It’s a great community to belong to.
Yes, it is! Thank you!
Earnestly I concord with you. Your ideas are strong and true. More grace Sir.
Thank you very much! ❤
This was a great post. I started posting my fitness content on a blog because I can’t stand being unfollowed on other platforms. I have a hard time writing anything. I think mostly, I feel boring after so many unfollows.
Thank you for reading, Pamela! Maybe they just didn’t want to get fit. :))
Perhaps, you’re very kind. ❤️❤️😇😇 Thank you
I follow my husband everywhere, and he’s pretty boring from time to time. It’s okay if people unfollow you. Write about who you are, how you feel, and whatever tickles your fancy. On Medium, I went three months without posting, and apparently I have more followers on there than here. I don’t try, just voice who I am before I disappear again.
I’m pretty great at hiding, so it doesn’t matter if someone unfollows me.
Anyway, you got this! I think you’ll do great if you do what works for you Pamela. Have a lovely day, meow!
Thank you 😇💕
Thank you for the advice!
Thank you for reading!
Your welcome
Great post! I totally agree with you!
Thank you, Luiza!
You’re highly welcome!
Great info!
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So true Elena. I agree with this blog post
Nice one
I totally agree with the points you outlined. But for something fake I respect their privacy as it is. Anyone likes to look different in the blog world, right? I’m one of them. Hehe.
So one solution to posting too much is to have multiple blogs. While I am one person I have different aspects of my life from which I post. Some things I post don’t fit with other people’s definitions of appropriate. So, for my psychotic (I’m bipolar), zany, well off the wall posts, I have a blog dedicated to my version of eccentric. For my deliberations on why people make faith so difficult, I have a place to write (im)plausible posts. For motorbike touring, my passion, and photography, I have yet another space. That way I can blog when the moment takes me and yet not be post-bombing.
Great advice!
Thank you for sharing 😊
Love your tips/insight…
Hi Elena,
As a relatively new blogger, I appreciate the wisdom of this post, and I admire your strength in overcoming each intrusive thought that tries to drive you to have another drink. My younger sister also struggles with alcoholism, and I have seen how difficult it can be for her. Thank you for sharing!
Great points! 🙂 I’m still figuring out what the best posting schedule is for myself, and I can be SO tempted to post more than once in a day, what advice would you have for me? How many times a day or a week do you think people should be posting?
For me … since I have been at this for several years, i.e. trying to establish a legitimate online reputation and presence, I interpret an “Unfollow” as a confirmation that I AM REAL! You followed me? Do you mean you actually found me, followed me, and then made a conscious choice to unfollow me? I’m honored. LOL. That shows you acknowledge my existence in the world. Thank you! LOL.
Ty. I have unfollowed you for no particular reason then followed you again as I felt more connection because you commented on my blog! Your advice works.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I do not have too many followers and hardly get many likes or comments but I think that is because I just write to please myself. In the orocess if I find admirers that’s sheer luck.
I am the queen of having minimal followers. Sometimes I’ll randomly go somewhere and comment on other folks stuff, never expecting to get a follow anywhere. Then, out of nowhere, I’ll have a lot of followers or enough to say “hey, I’m doing something with myself…okay boys, time to shut it down!”
I am a complete mess. Oh well, time to lurk your blog and enjoy your beautiful words Sikiladi.
It’s rare for me to unfollow someone. On certain platforms, I’ll unfollow the individual if their niche does not suit my tastes anymore. For example, on Medium, more people follow me than I follow them. My husband’s pretty observing, so if he sees a topic, user, or something in my writing I should not follow, he’ll do it himself (it can get annoying at times when I’m playing my favorite game).
If I unfollow someone, that’s a little different. Most of the times I’m bored with their content. Something about their writing doesn’t strike my fancy of wanting to click through my email and just read through their previews for hours.
The last thing that’ll get me are the pictures the author would use in their content. If the file is too big, I wouldn’t want to keep following them after a while. However, if the files are reasonable, some big, some small, some not at all, then I’ll keep following them. Most of the time I use my phone when I stroll through my email or lurk content on some blogging platforms. When I’m on my computer, you’re cursed.
Knowing my habits, you’ll get almost five paragraphs’ worth of a response before I remind myself I have to jump on my college courses as well. However, you’re blessed with two if I use my phone. I am still waiting on a mobile version of ProWritingAid spell checker. Until then, computer!
Sorry for rambling!
Very insightful. I find myself writing on ideas that I feel I’ve already covered. I will try to use this advice to diversify my approach. Thank you for this!
Thank you so much for this! I actually thought before now that posting often was a strength and a boost , but now I know better. Iam barely seven months ‘old’ in blogging and thought I needed to post often to increase my visits and views. Now, that will change! haha! AND thanks for liking my posts!
Nope.
People are always searching for something new, something different. There is nothing new under the sun. However, everything has that individuals signature, style. So if they catch your attend ride with them for awhile. It’s okay. It’s not a perfect world and we’re not perfect people.
Hello Elena, maybe you’re right about the reasons why people unfollow a blog.
But, for I’m concerned, I have never liked or replied to a comment, or followed someone back, just to keep followers. And I’ll never do.
I think that if someone follows me is for what I post, not to have back some sort of reward. If he /she likes it, that’s great – and that’s all. I might respond to a comment or just like it only if I am genuinely interested. If this means lose followers, I don’t care.
This is not being rude – on the contrary: is avoiding the pervasive hypocrisy in which the Internet drowns – doing things just to have followers, to be liked.
Don’t get me wrong: obviously I’m not referring to you!
Best,
-mb
I agree with what you said. This was very insightful and helpful. Thanks for sharing.